The joy of losing

Losing is something that we are frightened of that brings to mind the darkness days of ones life.the moments of pure hell and humiliation at school or with close friends.
But without losing there would be no winners .We have start to view winning at all costs as the old view .The old world view of the the animal life or death ,the battle to the end.Food or no food for the tribe the life or death of the tribe.

To bring this to a group sitting how to make a game that excites the people that play it but does not destroy the game players with the idea of win only mentally

So to the present day, do we need levels
of winning were the participation of physical activity is fun and challenging.
Lets think of animal fighting.The want of the survival situation the food and protection of the tribe.

Can we move forword with a proactive game that builds good charactors from the joy of losing.